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Maybe loneliness implies detachment. This is not what an old comment on this blog says. It says loners are basically asocial beings with some hidden grudge in thier minds. I don't think so. May be there are loners of that version out there. But detachment is the phrase that has been on my mind for some days now. The true meaning of detachment is way beyond me. Embracing emotions, experiences. I don't know. May there is something in that.

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Dr.John said…
I guess some of us need people and some don't. The sad thing is needing people amd being alone.That's where detachment comes in. You pretend, or convince yourself, you don't need them.
Dr.John said…
I guess some of us need people and some don't. The sad thing is needing people amd being alone.That's where detachment comes in. You pretend, or convince yourself, you don't need them.
Anonymous said…
I think loneliness and detachment can be two separate entities. People that are not loners can be detached when it comes to emotional situations. All loners aren't detached, they can be very emotionally connected, but you rarely see it because they're alone. I hope that makes sense. :-)
Pradeep VM said…
Rain ! It is a delight to read your comments. I agree with you. All loner's are not detached. In fact, like I said, detachment is not exactly my forte either you know. In fact part of my problem is lack of detachment. How is that for nonsense ! :-)
Pradeep VM said…
dr john, needing people and being alone is the worst kind of fix one can be in. Quite true. About pretending not to need company, I will have something to say about that, later. Thanks for commenting.
Thomases said…
There's a difference between being a loner and being lonely. I love being on my own and enjoy my own company. I work at home in my office and enjoy the solitude which allows me to concentrate on what needs to be done. But that doesn't mean I'm lonely - and I'm not. Happily married with a family of five daughters who are nearly all into adulthood now - and our family life can be very hectic and busy. Hence the reason why I like being alone during the working week when none of them are home ;-) - I am very much a loner and enjoy it!
Pradeep VM said…
That is a good point you have raised Kathie-the difference between a loner and being lonely. I have comments on some of my earlier posts which dwell with considerable detail on the opposite of the situation you mention. That is, being utterly lonely while existing and functioning almost normally in a crowd. I guess it is complex !

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